Originally Posted by Forsaken
now I feel like I have to take action or else I'll just prove that I am a doormat.
Well, Forsaken, I have a doctorate in being a doormat. I don't know what I would do if I was in your shoes. It's like you take the buildup over time. Each lie adds to the burden on your back. At some point, that extra lie breaks the camel's back. Once it is broken, does taking away all of the weight heal the back? I don't know. But, if you do decide to try to reconcile, I would not call that being a doormat. It takes one to know one, as they say. I was a doormat in not ending things months ago when the affair just continued. Now that your wife seems genuinely remorseful, the doormat label would not fit. IMHO