Originally Posted by janesmith
women dont have sex because........they dont want to. each of us must take responsibility for our contribution to the ill health of our marriage. sex is a normal healthy necessary part of many marriages and it is not unreasonable to expect your marriage to include sex as well. Im sure this is not a secret to her. She needs to find out the real reason she wont have sex. If it was you doing more chores and your did more chores as she asked and you were still assedout, then thats not it and she isnt being honest with herself or you.
I wouldnt tolerate not having sex barring illness that prevents it.
You have hit the nail on the head right here.
I've found women in general have a list of 4569345 preplanned "appropriate" responses for each situation. Sex = Headache, tired, Dishes = tired, Dinner = stressed, More workload = other priorities.
I work with and manage a heap of women within a large scale retail environment and after a while you learn to read the actual meaning behind some answers but you get so much throw away crap its unbelievable.
Men are not mind readers!
I can sit and discuss something with my wife, repeat back the exact conversation, ask appropriate questions and an hour later have absolutely no idea what she was trying to achieve. She's presented me with 57 1/2 minutes of nothing but thinly veiled crap, 2 minutes of useful stuff (if I can find it) and allowed me about 30 seconds to talk. If she simply presented the info without so much regard for the other stuff I would get it, her point would be made and we can move on, instead it much be neatly wrapped in s**t so i understand it?