Originally Posted by WTSM
When should -- and who should file for the divorce? Does it matter?
Yes it matters. Neither of you should be filing anything, especially not with kids watching. As 827Aug says, divorce is not a solution. It is a last resort in situations that involve criminal activity, addictions, physical abuse, alcoholism, (true) mental instability and the like. Getting along in a long term intimate relationship doesn't come naturally to most people. If you and your wife didn't have a lot of help from your respective parents when you were children, you both probably have a lot to learn. It's never too late to start trying to get along, the best time is now.