| | Re: Wife and Male Coworker
I suspect you don't need everyone else to tell you what your heart is already feeling and your instincts are already telling you.
Your situation is just like mine, simply with a reverse of the sexes.
So, unless you want to change your name from "Confused" to "blindsided" like me, it is time for a heart to heart with your wife, and I mean NOW. You need to prepare yourself for the very real possibility that this is already a full blown affair (but my hope is that you are not too late). The first step is complete open discussion and putting it ALL on the table. You may not like what you find out, but it must be done. This passwording stuff must stop. You are her husband, and there should be no secrets.
If there is an affair, it needs to end immediately. You need to be clear on this, if you indeed want to save your relationship with your wife.
If possible (was not in my case), they need to stop all contact.
Please don't ignore this and end up regretting (as I do) that I might have prevented it before it happened.
Keep us posted, and good luck.