Originally Posted by Hijo
Newlife: If he is refusing NC, then I don't believe the affair is done with. Sorry.
I agree, which is why I am NOT in for R. He and I have tried to talk, he gets mad and defensive....I am already checked out. I have been using this time to get myself taken care of. With him deployed it is easy to distance myself and now that I am over the initial emotional response I am able to completely focus. I have a family to take care of, he made his choice, I am making mine. He is not 100% on board and I am 100% convinced I want more than this. I have decided that ultimatums just get me more heartache and I don't want or deserve the drama. There are way too many people who know what he was doing and it is embarrassing.
Sadly for him, he is losing 1/2 his retirement....again, he made that choice not me.