Originally Posted by stunned1
Ive been visiting this forum for almost 2 weeks, this is my first post. I am going through the exact same thing as you and believe me it hurts like nothing short of a death. Sometimes I think that would be easier to take. We have been together for 9 1/2 yrs and married for 7 1/2. She said she wasnt happy, wanted time and space, and has now decided to move for a separation. We are working on this aspect now, and I feel every emotion you are feeling.
I too started counseling to fix me and maybe "us", but I have realized the issue is just as much her. After looking back ( just love hindsight) there have been some changes in both. I dont know where the hurt ends and healing begins, but it will get better.
This is pretty common.
A woman's love isn't as deep as a man's. In most marriages the man get's alot more attached to the woman than vice versa.
So they can more easily decide to just leave.
I don't want to sound cynical. But if you get married as a man you should realise that she will probably leave you eventually and break your heart, it doesn't matter how "good" you are, if you stay faithful, always help with chores, stayes romantic like when you where dating... she will leave in a few years, sometimes more, sometimes less.
But as they say, it's better to have love and lost than never loved at all.
All men should realise that their wife will leave them eventually, but you can still have a couple of wonderful years I'm sure. And that's not too bad. Just prepare for the fact that it's only temporary.