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maxter · 09-12-2011, 02:19 PM

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I keep finding myself trying to understand why he's in this relationship, and why he's acting and puttingup with stuff that I know wouldn't have flown in our relationship. I don't know if its the trying to cope mechanism, or just my own need to understand. I really feel that we were happy, and was completely blind sided by his affair. QUOTE]

I'm right there with you on this topic. I made significant changes in myself and sustained them over a period of years. My STBXW even acknowledges them. That over the past few years I became the loving husband and father to our girls she'd dreamed about. WTH!? So why did she continue to waste her time on the OM??? A guy who cheats on his wife and kids. A guy who cheats on my STBXW. A guy who pops in and out of her life with weeks and months in between contact. A guy who told her that he won't be serious with her until she looses weight and gets down to a size 4 or less. I guess I will never understand her attraction and total emotional bond with him.

09-12-2011, 02:19 PM	#12 (permalink)
maxter Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: PA Posts: 246	Re: She moved into my house [QUOTE=LostJB;420358] I keep finding myself trying to understand why he's in this relationship, and why he's acting and puttingup with stuff that I know wouldn't have flown in our relationship. I don't know if its the trying to cope mechanism, or just my own need to understand. I really feel that we were happy, and was completely blind sided by his affair. QUOTE] I'm right there with you on this topic. I made significant changes in myself and sustained them over a period of years. My STBXW even acknowledges them. That over the past few years I became the loving husband and father to our girls she'd dreamed about. WTH!? So why did she continue to waste her time on the OM??? A guy who cheats on his wife and kids. A guy who cheats on my STBXW. A guy who pops in and out of her life with weeks and months in between contact. A guy who told her that he won't be serious with her until she looses weight and gets down to a size 4 or less. I guess I will never understand her attraction and total emotional bond with him.