Originally Posted by the guy
From what I read it looks like you had no other option but to file for divorce. I mean if theres any regret its at the fact that your WW is still in the fog.
IMHO reality will start to set, #1 the affair is exposed and the thrill and excitement is fading. Soon Mr. wonderful won't be so wonderful..... day in and day out.
#2 You are stepping up and now have made this affair inconvienent for her. Her back up guy (you ) is moving on.
As her AP (affair partner) and it relationship stresses, and her lack of family and kids will wear her down. She may see the light of day siting in the court room waiting for a divorce.
Stay the course the both of you have a long way to go. soon things will crumble around her. Especially when things like abandonment , child support, and bills start to effect her fantasy world.
Without all that thrill and excitement of sneaking around and doing something taboo, the affair simply becomes a regular relationship, one that is now strained and based on lies. There's a reason why only 3% of these types of affair based relationships ever make it, and the vast majority fail. That's where I think that statistic of 80% of people regret divorcing due to infidelity is the WS waking up from the fog because their affair relationship failed and realizing what they destroyed their marriage and family.