| | Re: Betrayed and Extremely Sad
I am so sorry! You could be me, four kids, twins, ages (ours and the kids), cyber cheating, and having to reside in the same house. I have been living your hell for over a year now. It's still hard, but was so much worse in the beginning. Try to use this to your advantage, get your H to take the kids out so you can have some down time, or go out with your gf's. Trust me these things will help. We also set up a custody arrangement for weekends so that we each had the security of knowing when we (really I) could get away. I spent many weekends visiting with gf's. The support they offered was amazing. It also gave him insight into what life would be like without me and with the kids.
As far as living in the same house, ours has a basement where my exh essentially lives. We (really me) set firm boundaries. Communal living space vs private areas. I didn't want his computer anywhere near me. Make your bedroom your sanctuary if you can. Repaint, take wedding photos down, I say that bc I cried every time I passed one, and put up pictures of the kids to help with staying focused.
Try to get him into IC, not necessarily to save the marriage but so he can make an informed choice and execute that decision while minimizing the impact on the children. Or even MC to help guide you both through the various emotions, again to help minimize the trauma on the kids.
I'm sorry I have no solid advice to give, just my personal experience to share. It does get easier, I promise. HUGS!