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DSSM9500 · 09-21-2011, 06:56 AM

Everyone - thank you again for your help and feedback. I think more than ever that it is time to move on from DS. I still love and care for her, but her head is so far in the fog that I need to take a new approach: just care about myself and my kids and move on. Essentially I'll try a 180 but more me. If she comes around and I'm in a place to take her back, great. If not, then I really know.

At this point I really see what this fog is all about. the way she has shifted blame, rewritten history, magnified all the problems in our marriage, and justified her EA. She is not in a place to think rationally right now, so I don't think this is even a time to work on R. My guess is that the fog is what got us fired from R. I'm sure the marriage counselor recognized this and knew that as long as she was in the fog, there was nothing he could do.

09-21-2011, 06:56 AM	#12 (permalink)
DSSM9500 Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 106	Re: DS has a new apartment on hold - some advice on proceeding needed Everyone - thank you again for your help and feedback. I think more than ever that it is time to move on from DS. I still love and care for her, but her head is so far in the fog that I need to take a new approach: just care about myself and my kids and move on. Essentially I'll try a 180 but more me. If she comes around and I'm in a place to take her back, great. If not, then I really know. At this point I really see what this fog is all about. the way she has shifted blame, rewritten history, magnified all the problems in our marriage, and justified her EA. She is not in a place to think rationally right now, so I don't think this is even a time to work on R. My guess is that the fog is what got us fired from R. I'm sure the marriage counselor recognized this and knew that as long as she was in the fog, there was nothing he could do.