| | Re: I found the email address for the OM...should I email?
Never email an OM. If you are looking for help from the man who is poching your wife you are only giving encouragement. It would be grovelling to them. Please don't take my wife from me.
If you must email the OM then make it a firm statement that you will be fighting for the relationship and will be doing everything in your power to make sure he is out of the picture. Never a threat that could be used in court. Do not ask for his help. Do not grovel. If you can't be in a position of power then do not bother.
Now calling an OM and being Alpha with him and letting him know calmly and coldly that you are going to fight for the relationship and that means you are going to take him off the board unless he disappears is another matter.
But the bottom line is that your wife has to cut him out of her life. You should expose the affair to others. They know more than you do what they are doing.