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Houstondad · 09-22-2011, 01:17 PM

I am planning to consult with a lawyer who is my sister's neighbor. With things tight financially, I've had to wait a little while. Anyways, I can tell my kids are being effected by my wife's seperation and abandonment. When she video chats with them now, they talk for a minute or two and then want to play outside or play games. I worry how they're gonna feel when I tell them mommy and daddy are seperating for good. Since I'm the one who is going to file, they may see me as the bad guy. They don't know the truth about why she left or anything regarding the affair. They are 5 & 10 years old, so I think they may be too young to understand. If anyone has advice or know of good books, websites I am all ears.
On a side note, when we chatted last night I was able to hear beeps coming from my wife's email indicating she was receivng chat messages from someone else. I didn't say anything because I didn't want her to think I cared. But watching her talk to me and the kids while her eye would glance away and she would casually in a very sneaky kind of way type back to the other person triggered the past when the affair happened. I felt angry, but since I didn't ask, I may never know if it's just a friend or something more than that. And I know I shouldn't feel this way if I want to divorce her. I really shouldn't be pissed about it? Or is that ok?

09-22-2011, 01:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
Houstondad Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 445	Will divorce hurt my kids and was my wife chatting with an OM? I am planning to consult with a lawyer who is my sister's neighbor. With things tight financially, I've had to wait a little while. Anyways, I can tell my kids are being effected by my wife's seperation and abandonment. When she video chats with them now, they talk for a minute or two and then want to play outside or play games. I worry how they're gonna feel when I tell them mommy and daddy are seperating for good. Since I'm the one who is going to file, they may see me as the bad guy. They don't know the truth about why she left or anything regarding the affair. They are 5 & 10 years old, so I think they may be too young to understand. If anyone has advice or know of good books, websites I am all ears. On a side note, when we chatted last night I was able to hear beeps coming from my wife's email indicating she was receivng chat messages from someone else. I didn't say anything because I didn't want her to think I cared. But watching her talk to me and the kids while her eye would glance away and she would casually in a very sneaky kind of way type back to the other person triggered the past when the affair happened. I felt angry, but since I didn't ask, I may never know if it's just a friend or something more than that. And I know I shouldn't feel this way if I want to divorce her. I really shouldn't be pissed about it? Or is that ok?