Originally Posted by mattverg89
Hm, maybe more nude massages would be a home run for me lol...
I guess my other issue is she always asks me at the last minute when we're about to crash so maybe I just need her to adjust her time of asking me when to massage her.
I understand that massages are a way of showing intimacy which I think is partially why I feel bad when I think about it at times.
I also thought about correlating massages to foreplay but I was worried that it might make me seem too, sexually active than she is? I wouldn't want to bore her out or get her tired of it...
This is very confusing. Sounds like some sort of power play going on in the relationship. For many guys, a good massage is part of foreplay. Also, if she doesn't reciprocate in a way that you like at other times, then there is an imbalace that should be addressed.
Not sure why being more sexually active than she is is such a bad thing. If she doesn't like sex, then just tell her that you are wired in such a way that putting your hands on her body for a massage affects you, so if sex is out of the question, so are massages. I'm not even suggesting that massages should be followed by sex every time. Massages are intimate acts for many guys. Part of a very intimate relationship, in general. If they are on the table regularly, then so is sex. That's your story... hint, hint. Throw some tantric mumbo jumbo into it.
Seems to benothing in life that my wife enjoys than a good foot massage. They can be a little annoying sometimes, after 24 years of them, but its all about the fact that she enjoys them, and is extremely thankful.