Welcome to the TAM forum, Gal. One possibility is that your H suffers from strong traits of BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). I say "possibility" because, although the inability to trust is a hallmark of such traits, you mention nothing of the other 8 BPD traits. I nonetheless believe it may be worth your while to read my description of those traits in Berilo's thread. My posts there start at
Distressed. Another description is available in my posts on Blacksmith's thread at
Complicated Marriage Dynamic.
If the traits described in those discussions ring a bell, Gal, I would be glad to discuss them with you. Like you, I married a very jealous person. I ended up divorcing her after 15 years because of her strong BPD traits. BPDers have a great fear of abandonment because they are unable to trust their partners. My advice is to read a little about such traits to see if they sound familiar. In any event, it would be prudent to visit a clinical psychologist -- for at least a session or two on your own -- to get a professional opinion as to what you are dealing with. Take care, Gal.
