CupOJoe:
Oh, no. . .it may seem that way (and maybe some forum posters are doing this), but we are not laying this problem at your feet and excusing your wife.
That's just it - there can be 1000 excuses of why not to have sex for a woman. Ususally for a man, there is about 3:
1. Can't get it up.
2. Just had sex an hour ago (really, that's a repeat of 1)
3. Low T
4. Mother just died (well, men could still probably do it
)
But I think we are trying to do this in a spirit of helping you, not to assign blame to anyone- to give you a correct "diagnosis." We all just want to see you happy and fulfilled. It's also why I am trying to run a parallel topic of how long does a marriage have to be sexless and how long do you have to fix it before it becomes invalid? I can't seem to get a straight answer on that, or even an estimate. . .it should probably be a separate topic.
Your thread alone hasn't inspired me to ask that question - it's the cumulation of threads.
Yeah, I get what you are complaining about. . ."Reproductive Decisions" usually seem to rest in the province of being female. Well, that's because they carry the baby, nurse the baby, mother the baby, all pretty much more difficult than fathering the baby.
So, yes, there is probably bias there. . .if a female says, "I wanna wait."
Guess what? You're waiting. lol.
Just like the basement is the male province. So back off, women! lol.
But you have to realize. . .tick, tock, tick, tock, the biological clock. Women don't have a lot of time to mess around on this. "Advanced Maternal Age" is what? 35? (which I think is ridiculous but nonetheless it is).
You can make a baby at 55 years old. She can't.
We try to seperate it as much as we can, don't we? Birth control? But in the end, sex and reproduction are irreversibly tied to each other, at the hip, pun intended.
