| | Re: Emotional Affair ?
So that would be a big 'yes' to an emotional affair.
Under the circumstances, perfectly understandable. Your reasons are in fact 'cookie cutter'. If there were a playbook for why marriages fail and fall victim to infidelity, yours would be page 1:
Lack of sex and intimacy, turn to someone else to fill the emotional gap.
No good comes from you continuing to correspond with your friend. None. Zero.
As for your husband. If he has always been low drive, then so be it. However, that certainly doesn't mean there isn't an issue behind it.
Low testosterone is the most common issue yielding the symptoms you describe. You can't make him address it, but you can decide what you are going to do if he refuses to address it ...
and leaving him should be at the top of your list.
That said, low testosterone still doesn't explain his treating you like crap.
There are bigger issues at play in your relationship. Nail them down. Identify them. Don't let all of it be swept under and overlooked by having an affair, or worse, having an affair discovered.
"I figured out they were serious eventually but was thinking it was ridiculous. I wanted to kick them in the balls." - Trenton