Originally Posted by Initfortheduration
So let me understand. You went to the counselor, without your husband. You told the counselor about your feelings for your husband and for the other man. And your counselor told you that basically you and your husband are just good friends. So you painted the picture you wanted your counselor to see. And she told you what you wanted to hear, that you're justified in cheating on your husband. What's the problem? I wonder if your husband feels the way he does about your marriage, because he gets to see and deal with your depressed side and the POSOM you're seeing gets to deal with your happy side. The POSOM gets your love. Your husband gets the crap left over. Again, what is the problem? You already got the OK from your counselor to cheat on your husband. I am married to someone who suffers from depression. So I have experienced the standing at the end of the bed, wondering what I can do to make my wife feel better, while she cries in bed every other weekend. I lived through 10 years of that (married for 29). You had options. You didn't have to start this relationship with this man that drains all the love for your husband. BUT YOU CHOSE TO CHEAT. YOU CHOOSE TO CHEAT. AND YOU CHOOSE NOT TO STOP.
I don't understand why you posted here? You give nothing but excuses. You have stated that you won't stop. You're an unrepentant adulterer, and if your husband doesn't divorce you, I feel sorry for what his future holds with you. Now go and have fun with the other guy. Its what you're gonna do no matter what anybody here says.
You hit the nail on the head!
Too often people forget that TOP seems so much better than their spouse but they aren't sharing life and it's ups and downs with this perosn!! It's easy to get along and be happy with someone when you spend a short amount of time together and have none of worries of life between the two of you.
To the threat starter, it's simple, either work it out or leave.