Well me and my wife have been having an awesome sex-life lately, we've both identified the need for it and have agreed to a minimum of 3 times a week. Last week was like 5 times though....
Anyhow all is good w/ that, but last night in the heat of the moment my wife looked at me while we were making love and said to me "you might get mad if I say this, but sex is the best part of this marriage!"
After sex she said to me "where's that man during the day, at night you're a whole different man and during the day your immature and annoying."
So I analyze this and try to make meaning of it....where is she coming from? Okay, so I get the fact that sex w/ me is good, actually GREAT is a better way to put it! She must have had at least 4/5 big "O's" last night and boy was it fun, but today these comments got me thinking...
What does she expect of me during the day to make her happy? I try being attentive of her needs during the day, tell her I love her, flirt w/ her, of course help clean around the house, etc. Now, I will admit that sometimes I have my immature moments and act like a high school kid, i.e joke around about something sexual, or say something like "you said hard!"
It's natural to me....I'm 26 years old and yes naturally I do act immature sometimes. I think mainly she may be talking about when I get hurt about things and I just walk out type of thing. Yesterday before our nightly "events," when I first got home, she and I were talking about my daughter having a school trip coming up in March and another in April. I mentioned to her that I'd like for us to volunteer and go w/ the school for the April trip and asked if she was volunteering for the March trip? I told her that if she voluteered, I'd then like to go too...
Might sound funny, but I actually enjoy/like doing things w/ her, like spending time w/ her, etc. Well she turns around and tells me "just cause I'm going to volunteer, doesn't mean that you have to. I can volunteer and go by myself, I don't need you to hold my hand."
I'm sorry, but my feelings got really hurt... What that told me is "I don't enjoy spending time w/ you the way you enjoy it and I want to do things by myself." This really hurt me, so I told her, "fine, do whatever you want, I don't care" (I walked out the door at this time) my thought process at this time was fine, she can do whatever she wants, I don't need to want to do things w/ someone who doesn't want to do things w/ me.
Well, I think this is an example of the way she thinks I'm immature. What did I do wrong, should I have stood up to her (more backbone) and told her what to do. I don't want to be an ass, but I really am a bit confused as to what she wants from me during the day.
Does she want me to act like a 50 year old....talk about the weather, our cholestorol, etc... LoL... I mean, how does she want me to mature? In bed I'm aggressive and take control, I make what I want her to be in bed and she loves that. Could that be what she wants from me during the day? More backbone and firmness? I just don't want to be mean about it and hurt her feeling...
Thanks for listening/reading and any of your responses...
~USAF1982
