Originally Posted by MarkTwain
Yes Yes Yes. More firmness, but always in a fun and cheeky way. Never let it get serious. Keep up the flirting and joking.
Could you elaborate on the fun and cheeky way w/ the example I provided? She doesn't seem to take orders well and doesn't like to be told what to do (so it seems that way anyhow).
How would I go about telling her that I'd like for both of us to volunteer for the April trip and that I don't want either of us volunteering for the March trip?
We agreed to both volunteer for both trips, but my honest "want" is that we only volunteer for the April trip and none of us for March...
I know had I told her that I don't want her to volunteer, she would have rebelled and got defensive, she would have gotten angry and said "who are you to tell me what to do?"
So you can see my dilema, she wants me to be more firm, yet doesn't want to be told what to do and I don't want to be controlling and hurt her feeling either...
Here's another interesting topic I have since we are on the "sex" topic. Awhile back during foreplay before sex, she got so hot and wild and she kept asking/begging me to grab her vagina. Well I did have my hands all over it, but she kept insisting that I grab it, I was thinking "WTF, my hands are all over it, I can't grab it anymore!"
After a few more sessions, I kind of figured out what she wanted, she really likes it when I stick my two middle fingers in her and place my palm high (near the public bone area) and really grab her hard/rough and hold it. She also enjoys "dirty talk" while I do this, things like tell her "this is my *****," etc.
She really enjoys that and for a while I couldn't comprehend what she wanted from me. Glad I figured it out... Anyone else's wife like something simuliar to this?
Any girls out there who enjoy this type thing also? Thanks for the replies and keep them coming, I need all the advise I can get to keep my marriage and sex-life going strong!