MarkTwain

As far as the volunteering goes, tell her exactly what you feel about it. Don't hold back. You sound like a man who tailors his comments about future commitments out of the fear of the reaction he will get.

Speak your mind. You can still compromise over the actual details - only you can make that call - but never pretend your point of view is different to what it is, that is just being morally weak.

As for the cheeky stuff - a lot of women like dirty talk and cheek. You have to get the timing right. You've already said she likes it in the bedroom. Chances are you can get away with it outside the bedroom but you have to judge the moment right.

Some women like it, as long as it's not in front of anyone, or at least certain people. On the other hand, I was very rude to my wife the other day in a cheeky way, in front of a male friend and she was grinning from ear to ear - I just managed to get it right, I was in a very c0cky confident mood that evening.

The other thing to realise is that a woman might be enjoying the cheek but still tell you off. my wife did this for years, and she completely put me of the scent! Eventually I realised that her telling me off was part of the banter - the idea is that the "bad boy" types are rude against their will. As long as it's all friendly and playful...

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