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Old 10-03-2011, 09:16 AM   #19 (permalink)
janrobinson
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Default Re: swearing on holy book, a life, lie detector test query

I wouldn't swear on anything and I have never cheated on my husband. I do not mean to be disrespectful, but I believe it is immature to ask someone to do that. If you can't find any "proof" you should consider believing him, until you find the "proof" you need. My husband did cheat on me, so I know how you feel with needing to know the truth, but it will come. People cannot do things like that and get away with it. You could be ruing your marriage by constantly accuseing and if you find out one day that he didn't ever cheat you will be left with guilt and a bunch of wasted time you spent searching for "proof" that you didn't enjoy him while you had him, because yes, if you continue to accuse he will eventually get tired of that and leave.
I mean no disresect by this, I am only offering advice.
Best wishes.



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Originally Posted by trudy View Post
If your husband or wife asked you to swear on the bible, on a family member's life and or to take a lie detector test to reassure them that you had been faithful, would you do it

a: if you have been faithful

b: if you had not been faithful

I have good reason to suspect my h has slept with others but have not been able to get proof. Am I being simplistic in thinking that asking him to submit to the above will get me the answers I so desperately need.

Can I assume that if he will not submit to the above that it means he has something to hide. Surely if he claims to love me like he says he does, he would want me to feel secure and reassured and have nothing to fear!!

If you were told by your spouse that your marriage depended on this would you do it and if not why not. Thank you for your time.
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