Originally Posted by sigma1299
,,, ...I was willing to continue on in an emotional affair with another woman but if my wife confronted me I did not intend to lie to her. Does that give any insight into the rationalization of someone in an affair? In reality that promise was nothing but CYA for me - I was smart enough to know that if discovered my odds of saving my marriage were significantly higher if I came completely clean. ... ....
The best way to try to process the behavior of someone in an affair is to think of them as a drug addict and the affair is their drug.
My H is well aware of how much I can't tolerate people who refuse to own once they are caught. Not sure now if this is to my advantage or not now. Your post is interesting in that it shows how calculating an addict/cheater can be. I am so naive but I always believed I was sharp and nobody's fool. Thank you for your honesty. My feeling is that my H has no intention of splitting with me - simply wanting to have his cake and eat it I believe.
what is CYA pl ???