Originally Posted by Trying2figureitout
Feel for you I'm there now. Just had another talk and wrote her a letter outlining twhat we are going to do going forward. Seems like this may be a turning point but I'm not holding my breath. What I did get to agree on was a monthly conversation about what is good and bad from the previous month until we get to the point of mutual happiness. My whole gaol is to keep this at the forefront figring she'll get tired of having he talk each month. Silence didn't work time to try something new!
I think this will bring the topic at the forefront instead of the back burner. What gets measured gets done. I've tried staying silent twice for 6 months a piece. I talked extensively when this first started two years ago. Nothing works our sex life has gone from low to minimal to near zero Something has to give for both our sakes. I've tried my best for two years straight! I've tried all the angles... manning up, wooing her it doesn't matter, backing off.
It's her and the little feelings of resentment for small slights that I wasn't attentive enough and self-centered. I quit drinking as a show of love and have been sober for two years! I wasn't an alcoholic either. I thought it would show her how serious I was.
It's a very stressful from a man's perspective. All outward appearances normal but neither of us reporting happy yet in our marriage... that has to change.
I think is peri-menopause and put the bug in her ear about making a doctor visit and discussing it with her doctor to rule out something medical. We'll se what he next month brings. So far so good I can tell I made an impact.
Wee'll see...good luck!
I report a success story if we make it work. I have better feelings than I have for a while.
You and the OP both need a good dose of Athol: Married Man Sex Life
Dude knows his stuff like Einstein. Go take a red pill and wake up.