Originally Posted by Catherine602
This is not for revenge. She abandoned her family and now she has to earn the right to get them back. By earn i mean to atone in such away as to be reasonably sure that she does not abandon the kids again. I think the fact that she asks and then glibly says it no big deal shows she is thinking of herself only. Not the impact of her coming and going on her children. Oh and let her that know it is a big deal.
Children are usually not privy to the goings on of their parents, especially young children. Even if you were to explain to them beforehand that their mother was going to stay a few days at their home visiting them, their feelings of attachment to their mother would surge and make it very difficult for them to detach once their mother leaves for a second time. Better play it safe and have them visit their mother over at the grandfather's house while she's in town.