Originally Posted by jenis
LOL, I remember in the early 90's reading a book (or maybe a pamphlet?) titled 'The Family Bed'. We never considered it, but knew two couples that had children who refused to sleep in their own beds. They were miserable.......
Omg...my children have been in their own beds/rooms from 6 months on (I breastfed so it was easier to have them in our room/bed). However, sex was often and wonderful. They would sleep in their crib, and we'd get busy (even if quiet lol).
Our bedroom is devoid of toys, kid stuff, and tv. It's for sleep and sex and us. Period. We don't really even let the kids in. lol. They come in during the morning sometimes for snuggles, but then we move out to the living room. Everyone needs their own space. Our bedroom is not a communal area.
I just think people use children as an excuse. "I'm too tired to ------" whatever the reason is. I have friends who say they can't visit because Johnny didn't get his nap. Wow. Ok. I just put my kid in the car and we go to what we had planned (unless they're sick). Johnny can sleep for 20 minutes in the car. I honestly don't see how this can happen unless every waking moment is dedicated to catering to your child/ren. Emotionally, I can be very drained (pre-teens are beasts! LOL) but...what better way to relax than getting busy with my husband, then having a glass of wine and a smoke in the yard?
It's about priorities. It's about wearing different hats. I have a mom hat, a wife hat, a hooker hat
, a friend hat, etc.