Re: Sad husband needs advice
Unresolved issues never go away. Arguments are not a way of resolving issues. Thus arguments will continue to build upon each other. Resentments also build and build. You resent the fact you have to be the one to apologize for everything, and it has begun to eat at you and the relationship. Neither of you know how to communicate effectively, thus are unable to convey your true needs or wants. Instead of expressing the truth inside you, you both find something petty to lash out on because your needs and wants are not being met. Is this sounding familiar?
Quit apologizing. Saying sorry means “I did not mean to do this, and I will not do this again” It does not mean ” Im sorry you got mad, and I want to shut you up for a little while”
Relationships can seem like work to some people. And yes I guess it is. But think of this… a master craftsman does not feel they are working when they are creating their craft. It brings them enjoyment to focus on the details that creates whatever it is they love. A relationship is much the same. This is why it is called a labor of love.
Fix the way you think about things.
Change the way you communicate your needs, wants, and desires.
Commit to resolve issues and not let them manifest into explosive and toxic arguments.
Stand up for yourself and respect yourself.
Respect your partner, and consider their needs, wants, and desires
Allow yourself to be happy when there are things to be happy about – and you will begin to experience more happy times
No one respects someone who allows people to walk all over them. If you want your wife to respect you, then stop being a weenie.
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