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Prodigal · 10-06-2011, 01:45 PM

Why won't a homeless shelter take you? You have no money and nowhere to go. What do you need to do - go live under a bridge to get into a shelter? And I'm not saying that in a funny way or to diminish the problems you are facing.

You are married to an addict who hasn't hit bottom. He may never hit bottom. I grew up with addicts, married addicts, and know what it is all about. Many only hit bottom when they're six feet under. Tragic, but true.

The first thing I learned, the hard way, is I could not rely on an addict for anything. Zip. Nada. I also learned that I was way too involved with what the addict was doing, keeping tabs on his life, trying to get him to see the light, quit using, and get into some type of rehab. He kept using. I continued to go crazy.

If the homeless shelter will not take you, call the Salvation Army in your area. Hopefully, there is one. They will take anyone in who asks, or help you find shelter. Call the YMCA or YWCA.

When you tried to leave before and your husband knew it, he hid your purse "and blocked me from leaving" (your words). You don't think he wouldn't get physical if you left? Don't put it past him. At this point, I agree w/Gypsy. See if you can get the cops to discover him making a drug deal, then get the hell out.

You are living, first-hand, with what addicts do: they drag everyone down with them who is in their path. Addiction is an equal-opportunity destroyer. Get out or be dragged under.

Please update us when you can do so safely.

10-06-2011, 01:45 PM	#5 (permalink)
Prodigal Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: My side of the street Posts: 1,257	Re: Eating and Sleeping Alone Isn't Fun Why won't a homeless shelter take you? You have no money and nowhere to go. What do you need to do - go live under a bridge to get into a shelter? And I'm not saying that in a funny way or to diminish the problems you are facing. You are married to an addict who hasn't hit bottom. He may never hit bottom. I grew up with addicts, married addicts, and know what it is all about. Many only hit bottom when they're six feet under. Tragic, but true. The first thing I learned, the hard way, is I could not rely on an addict for anything. Zip. Nada. I also learned that I was way too involved with what the addict was doing, keeping tabs on his life, trying to get him to see the light, quit using, and get into some type of rehab. He kept using. I continued to go crazy. If the homeless shelter will not take you, call the Salvation Army in your area. Hopefully, there is one. They will take anyone in who asks, or help you find shelter. Call the YMCA or YWCA. When you tried to leave before and your husband knew it, he hid your purse "and blocked me from leaving" (your words). You don't think he wouldn't get physical if you left? Don't put it past him. At this point, I agree w/Gypsy. See if you can get the cops to discover him making a drug deal, then get the hell out. You are living, first-hand, with what addicts do: they drag everyone down with them who is in their path. Addiction is an equal-opportunity destroyer. Get out or be dragged under. Please update us when you can do so safely. __________________ *I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.* You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.