Originally Posted by bmtgrl

I believe him being "hurt" is cumalative over the years of our relationship. It's been a horrible cycle, one of us does something (or doesn't do something) and that causes a reaction and so on and so on. We are both very stubborn people (of course I think he's more stubborn than I am) Our communication has been broken down for years, heck, maybe we never really had good communication. Whenever we try to talk about serious stuff (involving feelings) one of us tends to 'shut down'. He is afraid to open up to me (or at least that's what he says). I am trying to be patient (which is very difficult since I'm not a patient person). I am trying to be loving toward him and I just hope that this wall he has up will come down. I don't know how long I can continue to put in the effort without getting anything in return.