Originally Posted by Michelle27

I have sat on this post for a couple of days and really need to reply now. It is such a timely post for me. I have been one of those women that has tried to cope with anger explosions for years. That cycle has been my life for something like 4-5 years. RDJ, you summed up that cycle very well...explode, apologize (sometimes), and then wait for the next explosion. And yes, my resentment and sometimes even my own anger grew and grew. And added to this cycle was my husband's own shame over how these explosions happened and what was said during them, and he wanted me to totally move on and forgive. He called it the "elephant in the room" that I kept adding to with each blow up and he felt there was never a clean slate. My resentment over him seeming to ignore the effects of this anger on me grew and grew and almost ended our marriage a whole bunch of times.