| | Re: Too good to leave; Too bad to stay
I get what you're saying about wanting to be very sure that you've done everything you possibly can. That makes perfect sense. In my mind, the question is how long do you want to hang in limbo?
Honestly, at some point you need to make a decision ... either you're in it for the long haul or you're not in it. If you care about your husband (and for that matter yourself), you'll make that decision much sooner than later. If you're not in it, you both need to be given the freedom to move on.
Are you being very honest with him about how you feel? What are his thoughts?