10-12-2011, 01:54 PM
Join Date: Nov 2009
| | Re: Sexless in a Christian Mans Marriage.
Originally Posted by RDJ
The three of you offer a different view, but you also do so in a humble and respectful way.
Through the process, we do NOT build ill feelings or resent. In fact (as far as I am concerned) we have built mutual admiration and respect for each other. Even though we have different views.
Now if more couples could learn to do the same inside of their marriage, there would be far less people on this site.
You are so easy to get along with RDJ -- Very true, that goes for Friendships in life too !
Ever hear of this :
.... Different Drums and Different Drummers
| If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong. |
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be. I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself to the possibility that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear as right--- FOR ME. To put up with me is the 1st step to understanding me.
Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. But whatever our relation, this I know: You are I are fundamentally different and both of us have to march to our own drummer.