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Originally Posted by gembob20  I posted earlier but in short been with my Hubby for 9 years, married for 2. Since we got married our sex life has gone downhill.
Our relationship was perfect in every way outside of the bedroom we are best of friends and don't argue at all. However the lack of intimacy has resulted in
In the breakdown of my physical attraction and I now see him as my best friend rather than husband. He has told me that he doesn't think our sex life is a problem
and that he has always felt insecure about himself which he thinks is the reason behind his lack of desire to have a sexual relationship.
In all other ways we are perfect. I decided after my last post to tell him how serious it was for me and that I can't see a way back anymore.
He is devastated and says he will seek counselling to sort it out but my main issue is can I get those feelings back? I was so certain that it was over but now I'm doubting
that and I dont know if that is purely because I don't want to see my best friend in pain. Has anyone been I'm a similar situation-can you fall back in love with someone?
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Absolutely!
H and I have been together 26 yrs..married for 21 yrs. At the depths of our worst time I thought all my feelings for him were completely and utterly extinguished. However, through 9 months separation, IC and MC for the both of us and a lot of deep spiritual councelling I discovered my everlasting love for him was swarmed by the build up of 20 yrs of hurt, pain and resentment. We are now re-united however my soul and spirit is rebuilt and hopefully his as well. Our marriage is still fragile, still issues to get through, and divorce is still possible...but I know I will always love him no matter what happens.
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