Originally Posted by MarkTwain
You seem to love confrontation. But that misses the point that by looking to see if we bring life's lessons on ourselves, we have the power to change the one thing we can control - ourself.
No I don't love confrontation. I love resolution. You seem to dislike action to resolve an issue. You seem to like to ponder the intricacies of male and female interpersonal relations and the dynamics of the.....blah,blah,blah. That's your style. We have gone round and round b4. I have stated my beliefs on this web several time. As you have. You feel that waiting, delaying, pondering, negotiating, contemplating, considering, anything but decisions are called for. DB has put up with a wife who for YEARS has had an emotional relationship, that is pretty much ruining the mans life. Look the man is here because he is at the end of his rope. So what is your advice? As always.....give him more rope. Where I prefer to give advice that brings resolution. Now I can listen to you. Or I can listen to the victims and the cheating spouses appreciation through these threads and through the e-mails I get thanking me for the impact I have on them, and how it has helped them. Or I can listen to you. Let me think...........................I've decided. I am going to listen to them.
Mark twain. It's almost like you have an obsession with my postings. you follow me around and call into question my right to post because I have a strong marriage. And can't speak authoritatively, because I don't know what being cheated on is like. Or how I'm judgmental, or confrontational, or angry. You know what you don't do. You don't argue the points I make. You are full of compassion, which is admirable. But I find your methods to be ineffectual. My suggestions are black and white. And people can take my advice or not. But you don't like that. You don't like strong opinions. How weak is that? I believe people come here for advice because they can't see a way out of their situation. I give them encouragement to take action. You give them gray oatmeal.