Taken from Amazon.com: No More Mr. Nice Guy! (9780762415335): Robert A. Glover: Books
Here is a list of NICE GUY Characteristics - Most guys have a few of these, but the headed for doormat status "NICE guys"- posses these in abundance . The book has more detail to each little item of coarse.
| Nice Guys are Givers |
Nice Guys fix & Caretake
Nice Guys seek approval from others
Nice Guys avoid Conflict
Nice Guys believe they must hide their perceived flaws & mistakes
Nice Guys seek the "right" way to do things
Nice Guys REPRESS their feelings
Nice Guys often try to be different from their fathers
Nice Guys are often more comfortable relating to women than to men
Nice Guys have difficulty making their needs a priority
Nice Guys often make their partner their emotional center
There is problems with each one of those -the motivation behind the doing is the issue. What is happening is -- These men have been conditioned to believe that if they are "NICE" they will be loved, get their needs met and have a smooth life.
Here is the "not-so nice" traits of Nice Guys ...
| Nice guys can be Dishonest, secretive, compartmentalized, manipulative, controlling, they give to get, passive aggressive, some are full of rage, additive, have difficulty setting boundaries, frequently isolated, often attracted to people & situations that need fixing, frequently have problems in intimate relationships, have issues with sexuality, usually only relatively successful .
Of coarse those are not true for every Nice guy, my husband fit 4 of those plus a few we considered halfs in his case.
Good book, it will make many things clear to you to help you on your way to 1st - Win her RESPECT
& this should lead to MORE sexual attraction, if that is the area you feel you are lacking in, I assume.