gonefishin

Yano

The first thing you should do is thank your mother in laws husband.

This guy knows your in a bind. He knows his step son is a lazy slug.
I think he would appreciate the thank you. Let him know when you get back on your feet you will pay him back.

Second thing you should do is have a plan. One of the posts here recommended you leaving with your child and going to your mothers house. Do this without the husband. Leave the trash behind.

If you love your husband. Tell him so, but tell him he needs to grow up, stop drinking, and get a job. Until he accomplishes these three things he is on his own.

Now your husband is forced to take a hard look in the mirror. Does he want to live with his mommy for the rest of his life or does he want to be a grown up and get a job and support his wife and child?

Be firm. Stick to the plan.

Don't forget. Thank the mother in laws husband before you do this. You will have an ally.