Reading your post makes me sad. Recently Ifound out my husband had an affair and all of our problems with trying to fix whats been damaged has put a real strain on our sex life. I constantly want to have sex because it makes me feel wanted and desired but his sex drive is non existent due to the problems we are having. I know how you feel, I also get lots of attention from others and its just not the same when there is only person you really want it from. there is a website
www.settingcaptivesfree.com, I have been doing the course online after my husbands infidelity but it is also for women whos husbands have issues with porn and things like that. It has really helped and is insightful.