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bhappy3 · 02-12-2008, 04:43 PM

My girl friend and I are having some communication issues. Please note that I'm a girl and we've been friends for 25 years this year... since childhood. So anyway, it seems that in the past few years that when she calls me the conversaition is completely one sided. The other night she called and we were on the phone for 24 minutes and 43 seconds. I made note of this b/c I can guarantee that I spoke for no more than the 43 seconds. Even when she asked a question of me, I wasn't even awarded enough time to finish the thought before she went off talking about something else. And if I would interject something, something I want to talk about, she would interrupt to tell me something completely off the wall, like her ferret climbed the curtain this morning. ??? To me that is a sign that she doesn't want to talk about what I have to say, so I shut up and she continues to talk. Even on IM chats this is how it goes. I'm completely frustrated and just avoid talking to her anymore. Even when questioned by her the other night what was wrong, I was cut short and didnt' even get my thoughts out. My husband and others are tired of hearing about it and basically told me to talk to her about it or shut up. So I emailed pretty frankly what's been going on and now we're wondering what kind of solution there is. Any thoughts anyone?? Thanks!! =)

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bhappy3 Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 131	girl friend talk problems My girl friend and I are having some communication issues. Please note that I'm a girl and we've been friends for 25 years this year... since childhood. So anyway, it seems that in the past few years that when she calls me the conversaition is completely one sided. The other night she called and we were on the phone for 24 minutes and 43 seconds. I made note of this b/c I can guarantee that I spoke for no more than the 43 seconds. Even when she asked a question of me, I wasn't even awarded enough time to finish the thought before she went off talking about something else. And if I would interject something, something I want to talk about, she would interrupt to tell me something completely off the wall, like her ferret climbed the curtain this morning. ??? To me that is a sign that she doesn't want to talk about what I have to say, so I shut up and she continues to talk. Even on IM chats this is how it goes. I'm completely frustrated and just avoid talking to her anymore. Even when questioned by her the other night what was wrong, I was cut short and didnt' even get my thoughts out. My husband and others are tired of hearing about it and basically told me to talk to her about it or shut up. So I emailed pretty frankly what's been going on and now we're wondering what kind of solution there is. Any thoughts anyone?? Thanks!! =) __________________ :