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GApeach · 02-13-2008, 08:17 AM

This girl I knew started working with my husband. Well, I was going through a rough patch with my hormones and would be up one minute, down the next. To make a long story short, I knewthis girl was easy even though she was married. I asked my husband to stay away from her. He agreed. I go up there one day at lunch to take him something and there he sits, right beside her and another lady. I kept my cool but asked him that night why was he telling me he was having no contact with her when he was. This continued for months. He even PROMISED he wasnt talking to her and after about 5-6 months, we were fighting about something and he said, oh yeah, by the way, I have been talking to her this whole time. She is my friend and you are not going to change that. The company folded a few months after that. Now, years later, he tells me that he could have had her if he had chose to pursue it. This really hurt me and troubled me that he would bring this up out of the blue. He told me that she was his "best" friend at work. I feel like he chose her over our relationship, because it was so important for him to be her friend when he knew I wanted him to stay away from her. He also told me that everyone thought they were having an affiar. I am torn. I love him and I know that my jealousy back then was a problem but he married me in SICKNESS OR IN HEALTH and I was having major female problems at that time. Anyway, I know I will probably get slammed that I shouldnt tell him who he can or cannot talk to but, I just feel like he totally overlooked my feelings and why tell me this other stuff now? You just would not believe how hurt and angry I was when he told me that she was his best friend. He tells me things and then when I ask him about it, he gets mad. When I asked him why? Why was her friendship so much more important to you than I was and what I was going through. He says I dont know. Any question I ever ask him that he knows the answer will probably piss me off, he doesnt know. That is his "Get out of jail free" card. He never knows why he does what he does. How could he not know why he chose her friendship over our marriage?

02-13-2008, 08:17 AM	#1 (permalink)
GApeach Registered User Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 3	Should I stay or go This girl I knew started working with my husband. Well, I was going through a rough patch with my hormones and would be up one minute, down the next. To make a long story short, I knewthis girl was easy even though she was married. I asked my husband to stay away from her. He agreed. I go up there one day at lunch to take him something and there he sits, right beside her and another lady. I kept my cool but asked him that night why was he telling me he was having no contact with her when he was. This continued for months. He even PROMISED he wasnt talking to her and after about 5-6 months, we were fighting about something and he said, oh yeah, by the way, I have been talking to her this whole time. She is my friend and you are not going to change that. The company folded a few months after that. Now, years later, he tells me that he could have had her if he had chose to pursue it. This really hurt me and troubled me that he would bring this up out of the blue. He told me that she was his "best" friend at work. I feel like he chose her over our relationship, because it was so important for him to be her friend when he knew I wanted him to stay away from her. He also told me that everyone thought they were having an affiar. I am torn. I love him and I know that my jealousy back then was a problem but he married me in SICKNESS OR IN HEALTH and I was having major female problems at that time. Anyway, I know I will probably get slammed that I shouldnt tell him who he can or cannot talk to but, I just feel like he totally overlooked my feelings and why tell me this other stuff now? You just would not believe how hurt and angry I was when he told me that she was his best friend. He tells me things and then when I ask him about it, he gets mad. When I asked him why? Why was her friendship so much more important to you than I was and what I was going through. He says I dont know. Any question I ever ask him that he knows the answer will probably piss me off, he doesnt know. That is his "Get out of jail free" card. He never knows why he does what he does. How could he not know why he chose her friendship over our marriage?