This past weekend I got stricken with a virus that gave me a fever and some stomach issues. (I'm not 100% now but well enough to work) It made me think of the last time I got sick like that-just shortly after my dday.
Being as that I'm a reflective person I wanted to stress the importance of seeing your physician as being one of the things to do when you have recently discovered infidelity.
I recently posted this in another thread-
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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered  be prepared for the following in the next few weeks-
major depression/crying bouts/breakdowns that come from little triggers
rapid weight loss/loss of appetite (some may overeat and gain weight)
lack of sleep/insomnia/nightmares (some may sleep too much and lose lack of desire to do anything)
possible bouts of nausea/diarrhea
waves of anxiety/panic attacks
possible suicidal thoughts (if this happens immediately get medical help)
lots of fantasizing of either violent events of your husband or OW or both or revenge tactics
lack of ability to concentrate or focus (be very careful while driving, I almost got into a big accident the day after dday)
forgetting appointments or events
physical shaking is possible as well
immune system getting suppressed and picking up nasty cold or flu
iow- lots of fun
this is why I often stress to make a doctor's appoint post dday, this is one of the most stressful events of your life and it effects you physically. There is no shame in getting anti-depressants or anti-anxiety pills for a period of time. |
Then of course, you should also be seeing your doctor for STD testing. Even if you think it was merely an EA. (we get trickle truth often and PA's are more likely than you think. Also, sometimes EA's may be one of many affairs you don't know about) If you are trying to R then I also suggest you get your wayward spouse to test as well, in fact make it a condition of the R.
Remember folks, these are physicians bound by the Hippocratic Oath and can't tell others without your permission. They have seen much worse than your "embarrassing" STD test and probably have done them much more often than you think.
My message is clear, I know you are reeling from the news of infidelity but as hard as it is to remember, you must take care of yourself in order to fight, whether that is for R or D.
