AgentD

If this is not a deal breaker for you, then you may have to live with it in hopes he will change. You can try to enforce some rules about helping etc, but its not likely to work. You did say you have even cried and begged.


However, you need to get a visual picture of yourselves a few years down the road, after marriage, kids etc. It probably wont change, if anything it may become worse. I am by no means saying he can't change and start to help more, but because this was done for him by his mother and he is used to it, it will take a lot to help him wake up and see the light.

Right now, unfortunately he probably sees you at the "mother" type. Because you're continuing to do for him, what was done for him for so long.

If you still love him and he is wonderful in all other areas but being clean, you could always move out, get separate places but continue to date. Chances are, if you two ever do get married, he might need to do some growing up before that happens. ALL cleaning responsiblity shouldn't just fall on one person.

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