Amplexor

GApeach

I read your post a couple of times and am a bit confused. It sounds like this happened some time ago. Has the friendship restarted? Are they still in contact? Or are you and your husband just in a rough spot now and he is using this baggage as a weapon? I’m a little unclear. Also, your post states he said she “was his best friend at work”. I don’t read that as an encroachment on your relationship. He was not stating that she was his best friend in life. But I agree the possibility is there that the relationship could be damaging to the marriage. It sounds to me like there are some other stresses in your relationship at this time and this old conflict is being brought back up as a result. My advice would be to discuss the current issues in the marriage and not reopen old wounds if they are not relevant to the current situation. Let sleeping dogs lay, water under the bridge… Pick your metaphor. Your post handle indicates you may be at a decision point already so maybe things are worse at home than you’ve fully explained. But if this is it, I’d say invest some time and effort in your marriage to see if things can work out. Draconis is right, communication and trust will be key for you. My wife and I have been working on fixing a pretty badly damaged marriage for nearly a year now. It’s been hard and we don’t know if we will succeed, but if we do it will all be worth it. If not, at least we gave it our best shot. I hope you have succeeded in your battle with cancer that must have been a horrible experience to work through. Take care and bless.