Originally Posted by JoeHenderson
Yes, she's been once without baby and once with. It went fine. I would like her to hang out with other friends too, as one of her friends is of the mentality that wives don't have to want/do anything for their marriage- that H's just have to deal with things. It's a work in progress because she feels guilty being away from the baby.
I would advise getting her out more without the baby, but do agree that getting her to see different friends is a good idea. Again, I suspect she is far to involved and comfortable in the mother role. Getting her out to act as a woman (as opposed to just a mother) is very important. I would also take the baby out yourself, without her, even for an hour or two, to force her to focus on something else. Finally, I would arrange a sitter and take her out to dinner amovie, something to get her out with just the two of you. Tell her she has only one phone call to the sitter.
I know you are late to the game with some of this, but you need to do it. Be confident and make it clear that taking part in these activities is mandatory for your marriage.