Originally Posted by deano57
What keeps us together? I don't know. I've been fantasizing about leaving for months but without a job or family to lean on, I feel paralyzed. There's only been one other divorce in his family, a nephew who cheated and left his wife and 3 kids. It was ugly. I think he probably feels it's his duty to stay married and I'm too scared to leave. Pathetic, huh?
No, not pathetic at all. In fact it's great that you are so in tune to how you feel about things as you are.
Standard advice would be to make getting a job top priority to you can feel more secure about leaving if it comes to that. Also, investigate what kind of settlement your divorce might entail so you can go into the decision with your eyes wide open.
I have a feeling though that the decision will not come down to financial issues. You have one life to live - do what's best for you.
Wishing you luck.