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Old 10-28-2011, 01:13 PM   #53 (permalink)
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Thanks! I realized what I did was not the best move and she actually just texted me to say that it was very thoughtful and to see if I am ok. I didn't and have no intention to reply. I have an old friend flying in tonight to spend some time with me .
Sweet Jebus that was NO BUENO, you basically gave away your hand. Now when she sees you avoiding her she is going to think you are playing games and going to wait you out (expecting you to crack before she does). Stop giving in to your emotions, they are irrational and will sabotage you if you continue that path. Always do the opposite of what you feel like doing. Every time you talk to her that's another nail in the coffin.

Don't EVER tell her what you are doing, you just make yourself look that much more pathetic. You DO NOT want her to feel guilty or feel sorry for you, you have to look strong and show you will be fine without her, happy even. Never let her see you cry or act sad.

The goal is indifference, as if you don't care about her anymore. The best way to do this is to blow her off and show no interest in her or anything she has to say.
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