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chattycathy · 10-28-2011, 11:01 PM

If you both work at home, it will be constant grief for you to stay together while distancing further and further.
I know you two have been to counseling but does he know you are seriously going to give up in frustration? That the marriage is not improving enough to keep you engaged with it? If you tell him you are seriously considering living separate lives for real to escape the sad state of affairs, he might be inspired to really try harder to change for the better. He might not.
I think if you are planning to live in separate homes but stay married, why stay married? If there is no plan to try to rebuild, why?
If you plan to live in the same home but live separate lives....grief. Grief. Grief. Grief.
Either way, one of you may very well find someone else to romance and only divorce would be the proper way to work towards that.
YK?

10-28-2011, 11:01 PM	#10 (permalink)
chattycathy Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 298	Re: Can you move on without divorcing? If you both work at home, it will be constant grief for you to stay together while distancing further and further. I know you two have been to counseling but does he know you are seriously going to give up in frustration? That the marriage is not improving enough to keep you engaged with it? If you tell him you are seriously considering living separate lives for real to escape the sad state of affairs, he might be inspired to really try harder to change for the better. He might not. I think if you are planning to live in separate homes but stay married, why stay married? If there is no plan to try to rebuild, why? If you plan to live in the same home but live separate lives....grief. Grief. Grief. Grief. Either way, one of you may very well find someone else to romance and only divorce would be the proper way to work towards that. YK?