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Old 03-23-2009, 08:18 AM   #52 (permalink)
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Hey CC, this roller coaster comes with free reruns doesn’t it? I do hope it levels a bit for you in the future. It is emotionally draining. In short your wife is either in denial or is completely unaware of what this relationship really is. The fact that they work together really complicates things and until she recognizes that this is an EA and she IS likely in love with this guy she will likely continue to act in a manner of ambivalence. I like the therapist approach to work on other aspects of the marriage first to strengthen it before the ultimate show down in the future. I think that my help when the two of you are ready to discuss and resolve that issue. You are perfectly correct in monitoring the communications even though she resents it. You might keep that in the back ground for now just so you understand what the level of communications is as you move forward. Good luck.
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