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Vix · 03-05-2007, 02:47 PM

Hi there Lucy,

I've been there before. I even confronted him about it and told him that I wasn't getting anything from genital sex. He said that he'd stop with the internet chatting and try to be more attentive with me, but I wasn't convinced.
Basically, I thought the situation over. What was I doing that may be creating this behaviour? Why did he need to resort to flirting in chat rooms. And what was he getting out of it?
I decided that I wouldn't stand for that behaviour, so I told him, either he's with me or the computer. And if there's some sort of fantasy he thought he could fulfill through chatting to try it out on me first, otherwise I'd tell him to give his hand some exercise. However, I knew that meant that I would have to be more vocal and explain to him how I wanted it. Also, I had to be more open to trying new things.

The outcome: We've been together for 6 years, he's not doing any chatting that I don't know about or feel uncomfortable with and we both have healthy sexual appetites.

So, maybe figure out what you'll stand for and whether you can live like that or see if you two need to communicate better.

03-05-2007, 02:47 PM	#3 (permalink)
Vix Registered User Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 1	Hi there Lucy, I've been there before. I even confronted him about it and told him that I wasn't getting anything from genital sex. He said that he'd stop with the internet chatting and try to be more attentive with me, but I wasn't convinced. Basically, I thought the situation over. What was I doing that may be creating this behaviour? Why did he need to resort to flirting in chat rooms. And what was he getting out of it? I decided that I wouldn't stand for that behaviour, so I told him, either he's with me or the computer. And if there's some sort of fantasy he thought he could fulfill through chatting to try it out on me first, otherwise I'd tell him to give his hand some exercise. However, I knew that meant that I would have to be more vocal and explain to him how I wanted it. Also, I had to be more open to trying new things. The outcome: We've been together for 6 years, he's not doing any chatting that I don't know about or feel uncomfortable with and we both have healthy sexual appetites. So, maybe figure out what you'll stand for and whether you can live like that or see if you two need to communicate better.