Cherry

When you and your spouse argue or have a disagreement, how do you do it? I'm trying to determine a better way to solve our disagreements other than yelling, screaming, hateful words, etc. We had a long day yesterday because it went something like this (warning, very petty argument that should not have even happened, but it did):

H calls me from a gas station to ask me if there is money in the account for gas, his app on his phone wasn't working and neither was his card at the pump or inside. I said yes there was money so I'm not sure what is wrong with his card, but it almost instantly escalated into an argument because of two things... He had spent 15 minutes trying to figure out what to do on his own before he called me, so when he called me he was already in a crappy mood about the whole thing, and secondly I was getting bombarded at work with guys here asking me to figure things out, so when H calls me, I immediately assumed he wanted me to "fix" it. I told him to go to the next station to see if their card reader worked and he got all bent out of shape because he claimed he'll probably run out of gas before he gets to the next station. Seriously, what was I going to do for him at that very moment??? And to make matters worse, my phone was not sending out texts and I did not know this, so he texts me calmly that another gas station accepted the card, and then he was taking his car to the dealer, meanwhile I'm *****ing at him via text and it appeared he was ignoring my texts. But he really didn't get them, and I did not know that until we eventually calmed down near the end of day and were able to discuss rationally. Meanwhile I feel like our kids had a crappy evening because my H and I were acting like jerks to one another. I don't want to do that. And this is just an example, but a lot of our arguments tend to start out with some pretty petty things now. Ugh.