Originally Posted by Kobo
Lot of things going on here. Everyone else has the infidelity angle covered. If you look at your current relationship, there isn't much of one. You're not in the house together most of the time. There is no bonding going on (Which is what she was doing the first 6 months). Second, She's probably losing a little respect for you:
then I start cleaning, cook dinner, bath the kids, feed them, feed the cat, get the kids to bed. Usually I have it all done by 9pm, I then go on the computer and work(as I also have a software design company) until the wife gets home. When she gets home, I make her some coffee and run her a bath, we talk about her day and then go to bed.
When you get home from work you really should't have to cook or clean much if she's been up since 2pm. I really hope you're not running her bath everyday. If you are I'm hoping you're actually in the bath with her on most occassions. I think the major thing is getting yourselves back on the same work/home schedule. Marriage is tough enough. I've done the overnight thing for periods of our marriage but it's never been a long term thing. Also when doing overnights I looked for a fireman 's schedule where you work 12hr shifts for no longer than 3 days straight and have every other weekend off. That allowed me to have some quality time with the wife. You and Your wife must put the relationship first, everything else behind that including finances. Y'all have a lot going on.
I hear you, like I said before, I can now see i'm being too much of a "Nice Guy". And yeah, I do run her bath every night, sometimes even warm her towel for her, and every once in a while make it a bubble bath and scatter some candles and stuff.
I know, I know, I'm a doormat. But she came from an abusive and physically violent relationship before we met, so this was my way of showing her that I love her and that I will only treat her like a princess.
but I ramble on.....
Ps- no I don't join her very often in the bath. But that's my decision cause I prefer showers and on the other hand she hates showers.