Originally Posted by Cherry
Thanks! The key word there being "apologize". Neither one of us are very good at doing that, unfortunately.... Me less than my H. And when my H does apologize, I feel it's more condescending than sincere... i.e. I'm sorry YOU did this or that... Instead of simply saying I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. I admit, I'm more than likely the culprit in things being aggravating this week... We've had some extended family problems and it came to head Monday and yesterday... I think I blame my H, and I need to refocus my energy and quit being such a B to him
We are best friends, so I just need to remember that we can calmly discuss things instead of threatening to throw the cat or dog out if you walk out of this house and leave. It's so messed up at times.
Cool. It is important not to determine the level of your relationship by the most relationally challenged person. If you are less good at apologies than your h, then he needs to take the lead here. And an apology that feels condescending to the recipient is not a real apology, it is an explanation at best.